Welcome to part 2 of the spouse perspective posts about what it is like to be in a relationship with a cammodel. This post dives into the topic of sex. Camming WILL impact your sex life in ways you may not expect and it’s important that your partner is understanding and sympathetic to what you do for a living and how this will affect your sex drive!
Part 2 – SEX
Alright, in the first post I wrote, I talked about some of the simple things you will come to learn if your significant other becomes a cam model. Here I will talk about how this field may or may not affect your personal sex life with said lover.
Right off the bat, sooner or later, your sex life will be affected by being with a cam model. The sex will slow down. Learn to embrace it and accept it. Let’s put the shoes on the other foot for a second. Imagine turning on porn in the morning, whipping out your dick and beating it furiously for the next 6-8 hours with minimal breaks. Now, imagine your wife coming home and mounting you like riding bareback on a horse. Needless to say, your urge for actual sex probably dipped a little that day. You are probably going to be sore and sexually drained. Mentally and physically. Imagine doing this for 5 or 6 days a week. Get the picture?
It’s like this, if you mowed yards for a living, would you want to come home and mow yours every night as well? Probably not. So if your spouse is thinking about becoming a cam model, this is something you both must be prepared for.
My wife and I are a 4 or 5 times a week couple. Now, with her camming, we have to plan out times for sex more than we ever did. Spontaneity doesn’t exist for us anymore. We are a 1 or 2 times a week couple at the moment. Sure, I’d love to have more sex with her, but I understand the nature of the game. I am completely at ease with it. That is why, again, trust and communication are vital in this area. The two of you must communicate with each other about how this is affecting the both of you. Take time for each other no matter what. Yes, you have to plan out your sex too. Sure, there is still a little spontaneity, but it is sparse.
I can tell you that if you do start to get a little sexually frustrated as a partner to a cam model, you mustn’t hold it in and then jump all over her/him about why you’re not having sex when all he/she does is have cyber sex with strangers all day. It’s not a good approach.
You must openly communicate with each other at all times about when your “you” time is appropriate for the both of you. It’s just something you must learn to accept when thinking about taking this path. Once you do that, you will then begin to realize that your partner isn’t ditching you for random dong and pussy talk all day. She’s just doing a job that pays the bills. When your partner is with you intimately, it is more personal. More involved. And yes, your cam working partner does have to be able to shut off the camming and turn on the real world first.
Camming isn’t a straight parallel line for your cam model partner. My wife can’t just go from a 45 minute private that has her dressed like a secretary that is fucking her boss in a fantasy world, to turning off the computer and pouncing on me in the next room, in the real world. There must be time for a separation from fantasy to reality. You must come to understand this as well and be patient.
It’s like watching a murderous and gory horror flick and in the middle of it being hit up for sex. Chances are you’ll need a few minutes to get your head back in the game so you can perform at a peak level. Yes, your spouse is talking sex all day, in a fantasy realm that he or she views as a job, but you can’t just come crashing into the cam room with a hard-on and mount her just because she is in the sex industry and you think she’s in the mood. It doesn’t work like that. Your partner must have a little time to separate business from pleasure first. Even though it is in the same field.
Don’t get me wrong, every once in awhile, she’ll have a steamy private that fires her up. It is rare, but it does happen. Then, that’s when some of that spontaneous sex occurs. Honestly, I love when that happens. I look at it as some other dude just paid to have my wife fired up and I reap all the benefits.
That’s the way you must mentally change in order for life with a cam model to flow more smoothly. Turn what your spouse does into a positive for the both of you on your end. Let them talk about their day, let them share. Hell, use some of that as foreplay when the two of you have your time together if that gets the blood flowing. Whatever. Again, if you can take some of this advice I’m sharing with you to heart, it will lead to you having a very harmonious relationship with your camming spouse. Not only that, the money he or she makes from it will be that little cherry on the top. Just some things to think about.
I will be back to talk about more of what to expect if you have a lover who is thinking of camming. Until part 3, take care and have fun!