A Spouse/Partner Perspective on Being In A Relationship With Camgirl – Guest Blog – PART 2 – SEX

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Welcome to part 2 of the spouse perspective posts about what it is like to be in a relationship with a cammodel. This post dives into the topic of sex. Camming WILL impact your sex life in ways you may not expect and it’s important that your partner is understanding and sympathetic to what you do for a living and how this will affect your sex drive!

Part 2 – SEX

Alright, in the first post I wrote, I talked about some of the simple things you will come to learn if your significant other becomes a cam model. Here I will talk about how this field may or may not affect your personal sex life with said lover.

Right off the bat, sooner or later, your sex life will be affected by being with a cam model. The sex will slow down. Learn to embrace it and accept it. Let’s put the shoes on the other foot for a second. Imagine turning on porn in the morning, whipping out your dick and beating it furiously for the next 6-8 hours with minimal breaks. Now, imagine your wife coming home and mounting you like riding bareback on a horse. Needless to say, your urge for actual sex probably dipped a little that day. You are probably going to be sore and sexually drained. Mentally and physically. Imagine doing this for 5 or 6 days a week. Get the picture?

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It’s like this, if you mowed yards for a living, would you want to come home and mow yours every night as well? Probably not. So if your spouse is thinking about becoming a cam model, this is something you both must be prepared for.

My wife and I are a 4 or 5 times a week couple. Now, with her camming, we have to plan out times for sex more than we ever did. Spontaneity doesn’t exist for us anymore. We are a 1 or 2 times a week couple at the moment. Sure, I’d love to have more sex with her, but I understand the nature of the game. I am completely at ease with it. That is why, again, trust and communication are vital in this area. The two of you must communicate with each other about how this is affecting the both of you. Take time for each other no matter what. Yes, you have to plan out your sex too. Sure, there is still a little spontaneity, but it is sparse.

I can tell you that if you do start to get a little sexually frustrated as a partner to a cam model, you mustn’t hold it in and then jump all over her/him about why you’re not having sex when all he/she does is have cyber sex with strangers all day. It’s not a good approach.

You must openly communicate with each other at all times about when your “you” time is appropriate for the both of you. It’s just something you must learn to accept when thinking about taking this path. Once you do that, you will then begin to realize that your partner isn’t ditching you for random dong and pussy talk all day. She’s just doing a job that pays the bills. When your partner is with you intimately, it is more personal. More involved. And yes, your cam working partner does have to be able to shut off the camming and turn on the real world first.

Camming isn’t a straight parallel line for your cam model partner. My wife can’t just go from a 45 minute private that has her dressed like a secretary that is fucking her boss in a fantasy world, to turning off the computer and pouncing on me in the next room, in the real world. There must be time for a separation from fantasy to reality. You must come to understand this as well and be patient.

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It’s like watching a murderous and gory horror flick and in the middle of it being hit up for sex. Chances are you’ll need a few minutes to get your head back in the game so you can perform at a peak level. Yes, your spouse is talking sex all day, in a fantasy realm that he or she views as a job, but you can’t just come crashing into the cam room with a hard-on and mount her just because she is in the sex industry and you think she’s in the mood. It doesn’t work like that. Your partner must have a little time to separate business from pleasure first. Even though it is in the same field.

Don’t get me wrong, every once in awhile, she’ll have a steamy private that fires her up. It is rare, but it does happen. Then, that’s when some of that spontaneous sex occurs. Honestly, I love when that happens. I look at it as some other dude just paid to have my wife fired up and I reap all the benefits.

That’s the way you must mentally change in order for life with a cam model to flow more smoothly. Turn what your spouse does into a positive for the both of you on your end. Let them talk about their day, let them share. Hell, use some of that as foreplay when the two of you have your time together if that gets the blood flowing. Whatever. Again, if you can take some of this advice I’m sharing with you to heart, it will lead to you having a very harmonious relationship with your camming spouse. Not only that, the money he or she makes from it will be that little cherry on the top. Just some things to think about.

I will be back to talk about more of what to expect if you have a lover who is thinking of camming. Until part 3, take care and have fun!

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Types of Members – The Entitled Financially Well off Asshole

You will encounter many types of guys online while you are camming. They range from the “grey” (member with no funds) that parks in your room constantly and never adds money. To the “whale/unicorn” – most of whom are pretty damn nice and don’t say much oddly enough UNLESS they are the whales that take you private for 2 hours JUST to chat and hang out. They do exist! Then you will get this guy (maybe). I’ve had 3 of these and they are somewhat rare but they do exist. Like unicorns. Unicorn assholes.

I’d like you to meet the Entitled & Financially Well Off Asshole:

There is another type of “whale” that I want to give you a heads up about. This is the guy that starts out hanging out in your room with very little money and tips you a few bucks here and there – running his mouth the whole time. As annoying as these guys are sometimes if you humor them they can become quite lucrative!

They almost always try to start drama between you and another model or member, or they are rude to your other members but nice to you, and you debate getting rid of them. I had one guy do this to me for a few days – he then comes back into my room with almost $900, tips me $50, and then returns a few hours later with $3 to sit and chat and chat and chat. I ALMOST banned him. I actually hit the button to do so but didn’t confirm and let him remain however I started ignoring him a bit. I’m SO GLAD I did not ban him!

He spent almost $3K on me in 3 days after that and continues to spend a pretty decent amount on me a few times a week still, which is why I put up with him. When he pays my car payment in 10 minutes it’s REALLY hard to tell him to fuck off.

Dudes like this guy just LOVE to impress you with their money but are difficult to deal with because they are essentially pains in the ass. They act like the chatty freeloaders, say stupid shit, do mean things to your regulars like take you private after a huge tip from a very old very NICE regular and then laugh about it in private like you think it’s funny too. (Stupid fucker – all you did was piss me off). He then tries to make you work around HIS schedule – asking you to come online when it’s convenient for him, usually at really weird hours. It’s their way of trying to use their money to control. Don’t fall for it. Show him that YOU are in control and not desperate. Inaccessibility can be an advantage. More about that in a future post.

Also, he inundates your message box when you are offline…. Tells you what to wear, asks for free shit in free chat. <- That one REALLY pisses me off because you don’t want to give the cheap assholes in the room anything for free or have them misunderstand that all they have to do is ask for free shit and you will do it. I ALWAYS have to do damage control after this happens. Sometimes for DAYS.

These guys act like they own you because they’ve spent so much money on you. I think that’s the most frustrating part of it. And I NEVER let them have control which just makes them spend more oddly enough…… At least that has been my experience.

You will  likely have a dude like this (or 2 or 3+) that you will have to deal with. Just keep smiling through clenched teeth and take his money honey!

Typical Day on Cam – What To Expect – Part 1

I’m still giggling a little every time I read the title to this post. You can absolutely have a typical day on cam, however, the thing with camming is that everything can change in a matter of seconds. I’ll focus on the more redundant and mundane aspects of a day on cam that you can expect, anticipate and almost set your watch to in this post though.

Free Chat:

Guest: Hi BB – You start typing or saying hello to respond – Guest leaves.

Guest: Hi BB, Hru? (punctuation optional) – You: Great, hru? – Guest: Better now that I see you (or something excruciatingly similar) *shoots self in the face*. After about the 10th time of this you will become visibly annoyed when they say it unless you have really good “poker face”.

Guest: Show me ___ and I’ll tip/take you private/exclusive. This one pisses me off to no end and they almost always get a lecture on being a cheap asshole.

Guest: ASS/TITS/FEET/DO SOMETHING BB (Hello NEVER comes before this – they just come in and say this shit without so much as an introduction.)

Guest: Where are you from BB? Where do you live BB? (Why? Do you think I’m going to actually meet some faceless guy that is perusing a camsite with $0.15 in his account with an appallingly uncreative username referring to his massive penis?)

Guest: Make me hard BB (Well YOUR cock is in YOUR hands so how the fuck is this my responsibility in free chat – UGH!)

Guest: runs mouth (or fingers in this case I guess) filling up your chat box with boring nonsense and never tips you or takes you private.

Guest: (insert vulgar dirty talk publicly – tells sex story publicly) You: Can we talk about this/that in private? Guest: leaves or just keeps fucking talking.

Private/Paid Chat:

Guest: Takes you into paid chat with 1-3 minutes worth of funds without warning. You get 15 seconds into private and he starts demanding you show your pussy or cram a toy in your vagina immediately. Leaves 40 seconds into paid chat after clearing out an active and actually interesting chat room.

Guest: Pussy now BB You: 

Guest: Faster BB

Guest: Takes you private with 5-15 minutes worth of funds and 5 minutes in you are juggling 3 dildos (one hanging out of your mouth held by your lips because you are out of hands and you are annoyed enough you are gnawing on the tip of it and hoping he doesn’t notice),  one in your pussy and one in the other hand while pinching your nipples simultaneously, wiggling your ass, moaning his name and waving your feet at the camera because he has a foot fetish too. Cue circus music…..

Right. In. The. Feels.

Guest: Asks for something against site rules. You say no. He keeps pushing the envelope. You 5 times out of 10 have to ban his ass so YOU don’t get into trouble, and the other 5 they just leave.

Guest: Says nothing. Absofucking-lutely nothing. Could have anywhere from 1 minute to 2 hours worth of funds. Doesn’t say a damn thing or respond to questions so you just go into “auto-whore” mode and do the usual routine because you have no idea what in the fuck he wants/is thinking/or if he’s even watching you. This could go on for 3 minutes to 1 hour and 45 minutes (this has actually happened to me – asked him to type hello every few minutes or so to let me know he was there but his hands were busy).

Well?

Guest: You have a super nice session and towards the end or partway through he starts talking about meeting. You politely redirect the conversation/bluntly tell him no/keep dildoing ignoring the chat box and he will NOT STFU. 

I KNOW I am missing some here so expect a part 2 LOL.