Okay ladies (and curious men), I brought my husband in to do a guest blog post for us. I thought it would be really nice to bring into view how being a camgirl MAY (everyone’s situation is different!) affect your partner and your relationship with your partner from their perspective.
This is HIS perspective and we have a very unique relationship which allows for us to enjoy the fruits of my (and his!) open mindedness and willingness to share intimate parts of myself with others to help secure a good future for the both of us moving forward.
So, your wife, and or girlfriend, wants to be a cam model, eh?
Well, it’s not a bad deal at all…if you as a spouse are prepared for it.
My wife is a cam model. I know what you’re thinking; how can I let thousands of men and women look at my wife in the most intimate of ways? It’s easy…trust. But, there are some things you should know about being a husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend of someone in this industry.
First off, if you are the type of partner that has to check your partners phone, emails, letters from home, whatever, then this is not something that is going to sit well with you and you should make your feelings known. Basically, if you’re not okay with thousands of people seeing your partner buck naked with dildos and lube flying all around the room right from the get-go, it’s not going to get better for you or your feelings about it.
If you are at ease right from the start but only have a little hesitance about how all this works (this is normal), you’re probably going to be just fine with your spouse bouncing on fake dong’s all day for cash. If you can be at ease, which I am, about the love of your life sharing herself with the rest of the world, it can be quite the lucrative adventure for the both of you. It just requires you to get out of your own way and let the money come rolling in. Let’s put it this way. I’m married to a top cam model. We have a bad month if she, say, makes 6 grand for that month of work.
When she first started doing camming, I was curious as to how this worked and what could be made income wise from it. I was also worried about her safety as well. So when my wife first started this whole thing, I used to sit in the room with her just out of cameras view, sipping on a cold beer while I heard thousands of men carry on a conversation about how bad they wanted to fuck her. I watched her do what she does with me privately on a more amplified level of display. I used to laugh to myself, and with her, about how if that guy that just took her private only knew that her husband was sitting behind the laptop flipping through a magazine while drinking a beer.
After awhile, and after I knew how careful my wife is with our safety earning an income in this field, as well as after I realized how this all worked, I quit going into the room with her. Now the only clue for me to know that she is having a good income day is when I hear moaning and movement coming out of her cam room every five seconds. It’s the sweet sound of the savings account growing a little fatter.
As I mentioned above, trust is the key foundation, just like any relationship for any way of life is, that the two of you must have before venturing into this endeavor. Trust me when I say that your camming partner will see better looking options while camming than you. You must learn to accept that.
She will get hundreds of offers to meet up or even get paid thousands of dollars to just hang out with other men. You have to trust your partner to have her, and your, best interests at heart when these offers are made to her. IT WILL HAPPEN. My wife doesn’t meet any of these men or women. Most cam models do not either. Hopefully, your partner isn’t one of the few that take it outside of the camming world behind your back. That’s why rock sold trust is key here.
My wife and I have very good communication. That in itself creates more trust. She will tell me about every offer that she gets to meet, which guys and girls ACTUALLY turn her on (Yes fella’s, most of you couldn’t turn on a light switch. Remember, my wife gets paid to tell you that you’re a sex God), she tells me about the mild and disgusting requests she gets, and so on. She doesn’t hold back when she starts to tell me about her day.
Just so you know, I do not ask. I do not brow beat her about anything. My wife freely talks about her day just like most of us do that work in office’s or wherever. My wife camming and her talking about her day doing it have become so normal to me now that it’s no different if she was a plumber or something. You too will get that way if you have trust, real trust, between the two of you.
As I mentioned above, again, how can my wife and I allow her to be so exposed to people in the most intimate of ways? Besides trust, the first time my wife cammed it was a Sunday Afternoon. The first hour she cammed, she made one hundred and fifty bucks. This is when I started to notice that this was a legitimate way to earn an income. A damn good one too. I just had to step aside and let her do her thing. When I get home from work each day, my wife out earns me, on shorter shifts, usually 3-4 to 1. All it took was for us to trust one another and the rest has been taking care of itself ever since.
I will have more parts to discuss on this topic coming soon. Like how it affects your sex life and social life, along with some other things that you should be aware of before getting involved in this career path as a partner. Until next time!
I hope you enjoyed reading my husbands perspective! I know I did but I’m biased LOL! I look forward to his other posts 🙂
It’s very important to provide an outside perspective because camming does and will effect your relationships. You may think going into camming that it shouldn’t have much of an impact but it does. I agree with him 100% about trust and good communication being essential. Those traits are essential to every relationship, however need to be fully present and consistent moreso when a couple has a partner that is a camgirl/cam model (or any type of sex worker!)!