It’s very easy to get burnt out as a cam model. I’m actually writing this for you while in a deep state of burnout. Thankfully I am on my period so I’m getting a break from the source. This is the only time in my life where I have actually been HAPPY to get my period! Yay! No makeup, dirty hair, sweats and nobody demanding anything of me – it’s the most blissful time of the month. LOL!
The first question you may ask yourself is “Why is she still doing this if she’s so burnt out?”. Easy answer. The fucking money. When you start earning large amounts of money and set financial goals (which you must do to get the most out of this job!) you don’t really have a choice. You have to go online. BUT you have to learn to be more gentle with yourself during burnout so I use a different approach to camming when I’m burnt out. More on that in another post 🙂
Signs of Burnout:
Snapping at guests/members quickly when you see the same bullshit game trying to be played. I prefer to kindly tell them to fuck off instead of lashing out at them to toss their “dick into a blender cheap mother fucker”. BUT when the burnout bitch is in full effect……
Dreading going online with a dread similar to walking The Green Mile. Every little thing is a distraction before you finally login. Chipped polish, cats need water, hair isn’t perfect, the fridge needs to be cleaned out and maybe I’ll go detail the car because I haven’t washed it in 9 months because I’ve been online 14 hours a day…… Justifying anything else that needs to get done because you would rather just not today.
Sitting online quietly picking at your nails or fucking with your phone/music when you are normally pretty active and engaging. Frequent, deep sighs included.
Depression. I’m not kidding. Camming will stop being fun. You will sleep a lot more, sleep in late, blow off shifts to go to bed early. Every mean/douchebag/dickhead comment will cut you to your core instead of rolling off you like it usually does. Your give a damn will be non-existent.
You get new outfits or toys/hair done/tan/manicure etc. and you just don’t care – it doesn’t perk you up the way it used to. Doing your makeup becomes a chore and you would much rather just chill with your dirty hair in a pair of yoga pants watching a documentary on sliced bread then hear another “ur so beautiful bb” “can I see your ass/pussy/tits/feet before I take you private bb?” “want to meet and fuck me bb?”, etc…
Did you twitch just seeing BB – yeah, ur fucked LOL.
You will start wishing the guys would hurry up, cum and STFU even though you are in paid chat and are making money because you are that sick of them.You dream of some random guy just coming in, tipping you a shitload of tokens/gold and GTFO without saying a word so you can take some time off….
You start considering going back to your day job. You fantasize about a cubicle farm and not having to touch your pussy for 6 months……
Rest easy beautiful and REMEMBER to take time for yourself. You have to. Your hustle will go to shit if you don’t and you will find your income and placement will suffer. Yes, you may lose some cash but you will gain it back when you come back refreshed, happy and horny again! I promise! Your custies WILL miss you and they WILL come back and they will SPEND on you because of it. These guys can smell burnout like sharks smelling blood. Take care of you first so that you can take care of them…. mmmmm-kay?
If you are just starting out as a cammodel I’m sure you are sitting there wondering how on EARTH one can get burnt out on camming. How can someone get burnt out being in their own home, having orgasms all day and making excellent money while doing it?! I assure you, this is VERY real and you will know it when you feel it! Sex work in any form tends to have a very high level of burnout.
Causes of Burnout:
Begaars/Freeloaders – Beggars will likely be a huge source of your burnout. You will be asked for free stuff all damn day. “Tits BB, Ass BB, Pussy in Free Chat BB, If you show me ____ first I’ll take you private”, etc, etc, HUGE fucking eye roll here….HUGE! These guys will wear you the fuck out. And it never, ever stops. It tends to get worse after the holidays and during the summer. Also, these dudes will compliment you to death and not pay a dime. As soon as they start complimenting you over and over just know you will not see a token or gold from them. And then there are the mother fuckers that just sit and stare without ever interacting with you.
Hearing the same shit. Every. Fucking. Day. Occasionally you will have a guest say something unique, but the longer you do this, the less it happens. The phrase that currently sends me almost homicidal right now is: Me: “Hru?” Dumbass: “Better now that I see you.”. UGH! STFU!
Constantly having to be “on”. If you cam long shifts like I do, you have to be “on” for so many hours a day that it becomes draining. You have to smile, flirt and be happy (which is not my norm personally,).
Physical burnout. Your body will get sore from long days. Your thighs will hurt, your shoulders and arms will hurt and if you have had a good day or two your pussy will be on fire.
Isolation. You spend all day in a room by yourself.Yes, you are interacting with people but this job is VERY isolating. Especially if you do not make friends with other cam models or have anyone to download your day onto or bounce ideas/frustrations off of.
Repetition. Wash, rinse, repeat. It’s almost always the same thing, the same request, the same show, the same dudes, day in and day out. When I first started camming the guys were pretty creative, it seems like less and less that I get creative shows with creative guys who want to have a good time physically AND stimulate my mind and I his.
Slow traffic/bad money. This will always burn me out the fastest. Slow days happen, but you still have to sit through them because you never know who will show up and make your day. When you have a group of guys that have spent all they are going to spend (you will learn to recognize this pattern in time) and just talk, talk, talk because you are stuck in free chat all damn day because it’s so quiet….. You will keep them around for entertainment purposes during the slow times, hoping they will spend again but they will more than likely just sit there and drain you mentally.
Trolls: Trolls are always there, and the really sad part is it’s usually a jealous model who is trolling you. More on trolls in a different post…….
Site drama and bullshit. When your site starts ripping you off, processing bullshit chargebacks and cutting your traffic when you get to a point that your commission increases – you will burn out quickly. You spend a lot of time trying to get to that 40%, 50% 60% cut and then they pull your traffic back to direct it to models at lower tiers this can be extremely deflating. It starts taking you 2-3 times longer online to make what you used to make at a lower tier. More hours+less money= burnout!
These are a few contributors to my burnout, yours may be different.